doing one's best in affairs of the heart

Communicating , doing one's best in affairs of the heart is only way to rise above the animal of human life...heroic actions, opening the door to dialogue of appreciation and gratitude is the easy example, but question like , "what are we about, where are we going, can we turn this page of conflict" these are hard, they are very intimate and pregnant with pain and joy. So many , can only abandon the love and joy risk the journey to deeper water. enjoying the commodity of a relation till it is used up and move to some one who needs them more..